Last night Kirsten sat down and announced that she was breaking up with me. The reason given was that we have different priorities for the future: I intend to someday have a family, she does not. Whilst I agree with that assessment, I would have preferred a different solution (i.e. doing it my way).
The universal response has been shock. Our families and friends, and myself, did not see this coming. It always seemed that we were “meant to be”. I have always been aware that Kirsten is very commitment-phobic and values her independence above all else, but I did not expect this.
I have never been the dumpee before, having always been the initiator of a breakup, and I would say that it is a bit easier on this side of the fence. I do not have the guilt of having hurt someone close to me.
I now have less than three weeks left in Europe before I return to Australia for the birth of my first nephew and the wedding of my best friend. The plan was to stay for 2 weeks and then return to NL, but this will not be happening. So I have a bit over 2 weeks left to fit in 6 months of planned travel. I will go to Antwerp in the next few days to buy chocolates for my sister, and perhaps from there go on to Paris. Mel and Jem, Jan and John arrive in A’dam on Friday and are spending the long weekend with us here, after which I return to London with Mel and Jem. I will spend a week with them, return to Amsterdam for one day to say goodbye to everyone, then off to KL and then home.
I don’t yet know what to do after that, but when I do, Dear Reader, you will be one of the first to know.
woooooooo – darryns commin home!
While it might suck now, I hope it’s the right answer for both of you. I hope you’re both OK.
I’d say the same thing on Kip’s blog, but there’s no bloody comment facility (and I guess she’s looking for a new host now) 🙂
cripes, didn’t see that coming. You’re taking it much better than I would have (but experience tells me you take most things better than I do)
Had Xander dumped me after I turned my life upside down to be here with him.. well, it wouldn’t be pretty.
Sorry to hear it didn’t work out but I have to say, you’ll be getting to go home and not have to deal with the Dutch anymore. You’ll prob be glad in the long run. Not to have lost her of course, but to not be living a “dutch life”.
P.S. I don’t think that independance / don’t want a family thing is all too uncommon here. Most of my husband’s female friends are the very same.
i guess yeah it might hurt and suck now…but it would hurt and suck even more down the road if you had commited to each other then to only realise you wanted different things out of life…and you could have been with someone else that has the same ultimate goals as you
Holy shite.. Nice Broad side. I think we are all in shock. If you need a place to stay for a little while when you come back feel free to call me. 61 405 495 184.
Best thing is to keep busy and before you know it Christmas is here with friends and family.
Hang in there it could be much worst. Like your bits might turn green and drop off!!! that would be bad.